It’s widely accepted that parental conflict during/after divorce is highly associated with the development of a number of problems children will have to struggle with, in some cases, for the rest of their lives. As a mental health professional with 25 years of experience with children, families, couples, and the legal community, I specialize in facilitating co-parenting agreements. While I am not a CFI or a PCDM, I am a highly informed, experienced, practical professional. I support parents who sincerely and respectfully collaborate for the short-term and long-term benefit of their children, themselves, and their extended families. Together, the focus is on co-parenting your children now and as their and your developmental needs change. Yes, family courts focus on “the best interests of the children”. Our work together includes not only the developmental needs of your children, but your own growth, stability, and health so you can take care of the many needs and challenges to come.
Among those challenges are questions such as these: “What about an acting out child or adolescent, or one who may resist/refuse contact with a parent? What about hostile extended family members? What about an ex who has more money than you do and will use it to take you to court over anything or nothing? What about a co-parent who might have good intentions but really doesn’t know how to parent with a plan? How will you handle a new adult relationship? How can you communicate with your co-parent?” These are just a very few of the issues that come up.
I want to get to know you and your old and new family. Who’s who? Where is everybody coming from? I always ask, “How did you get here; what are the immediate needs of everyone involved; what are short-term goals; where is everyone possibly headed; what are the obstacles; where are strengths and resources; what’s working and what’s not; and how can I support you–parents, children, grandparents, and families–in achieving stability, health, and growth through and after divorce?”